Whether we like it or not, problems will be a part of our lives. When we encounter those, I have noticed that we tend to deal with the bigger issues first and ignore the little ones. This makes sense. We think that we will get to the little things later on. Fine. But then sometimes we never get around to those little things. We usually end up making life’s most important decisions considering all the big things and none of the little things.I made some compromises with life considering the pros and cons of the bigger issues-- the important ones (or so I thought at the time), thinking that I will be fine if I make compromises with this set of big things. It worked out quite well. What I didn’t realize was that it would be the little nothings that I will miss in the years to come.
I don’t miss the fact that I haven’t seen you in a long time. What I do miss is crawling into bed for just two more minutes of snuggles. No really, just two more minutes. I don’t quite miss our endless promises of lifelong commitments as much as I miss the angry “I love you too!”. I don’t lose sleep over you anymore but I do miss watching you sleep. I don’t miss the long time you took to take showers in the morning but I miss your wet hair. I don’t get nostalgic when I hear the songs we used to sing together rather I miss your singing old old old songs for me that would always make me crack a joke about your age. I don’t long for the long loving stares we used to give each other but you cross my mind whenever some guy winks at a random girl. I am alright without the endless conversations we used to have about everything but I do miss the way you used to shake your head whenever I had said something childish and totally ridiculous. I don’t even remember any of the big fights we had but I do miss your “I am sorry” look. I miss wearing your shirts. I miss hearing you tip toe in when I am sleeping. I don’t miss the long passionate kisses. I miss the candy kisses. The feeling of being kissed all over and the tickling that went along with it.
Don't get me wrong. My life doesn't suck. I have compromised with my life and for the most part it is great. The absence doesn’t bother me as far as it is about the big things—the big life goals, you know. But sometimes I wonder what to do with the clutter of these little things messing my life.
What have I gained? What have I lost?
i have always talked abt it... the fact that we may think big things matter, they may to lotta people
but personally, its always the small things, small fight, small moments, memories that come back...
nice one Raaji... romance but subtle
awesome..
i think we jes dont have enough time or patience to deal with all the stuff so we are subconsciously forced to choose some of em and end up concentrating on the ones we feel will pose more of a threat in some way if not dealt with or not resolved. *shrug*
All the same even when it comes to hanging out with ppl we always tend to pick certain circle of friends from the rest and no matter how hard you try to balance the time you spend with all your friends you always end up spending more time and effort on a certain group of friends.
Ah memories.... they are always there inside us. Try to come out of them. Even i have tears in my eyes now and then. I could go on and on... but it's only me who has to convince myself i have to stop and move on.
*hugs*
memories will remain etched. there's no way to forget it. i guess we just have to be thankful that once they came and changed our lives.
live, love and learn.
nice post!
nice new vibrant blog skin..but i kinda liked the older one better..resistance 2 change, i guess..waise, u even added the copyright to Writing for Life. Nice detail..hehe.
Nice template!
Memories if become an essential part of our solitude really serve as slow poisoning. Get yourself involved in something else :)
oh god that was so touchin...gave me goosebumps all over...i crave to be said those things...sigh!!
you tickle the chords my existence madame.
it really is a privilege to read you!
may i echo 'I don’t miss the fact that I haven’t seen you in a long time.'
i just did a post on nostalgia...
do chek it out at whenhekissesher.wordpress.com
:)
Hi,
How are you? Have great summer.
What you said is so true.. Thats why they say the God and the devil both lie in details ... the smaller things... very nicely written.. hope alls well...
Lovely Post! We often fail to notice the finer things in life....smaller details...in relationship! And that, is what counts! Not the endless, mindless, Big shows!!!
Wonderful post...keep writing more often...I read almost all entries of ur Urdu blog.
U have got a good grip over Urdu and English, both! AN accomplished master!
Thanks Raaji for visiting my blog and leaving a wonderful comment. I hope to see you again.
wat i think is..those lil things are the ones which truly make us happy..the inner peace and joy comes with them..
Actually there is no such thing like big or small....we just think about them differently and when the strong wind of memories hit us then we find that wounds are still same.... time only put temporary layers on our wounds...and whenever the wind of memories hit us we find the wounds as new as they were at their worst.
Very touching post. I really like the way you have written.
Woah what I a surprise!!! I love the new look Raaji :) haven't been here in awhile but as usual a great post *thumbs up*
"But sometimes I wonder what to do with the clutter of these little things messing my life."
Treat them like glitters :)
We don't have much choice there, do we?
ammu.
Thats classic Raaji style. :-)
hey great article.
life is actually made up of all the small things.
how beautifully you've written. Hold on to all the little things. TK
And you have managed to make me cry sweetheart... How do you mange to put ur exact feelings in Words? You must love him like crazy...